Thursday, July 23, 2009

The Bed of Life

I feel that it is time again for me to start writing more frequently.  For the last 6 months or so I have been wrapped up in massive change.  I have talked about my change in massive detail  to so many probably to the point now where many of you are sick of it.  So now it is time simply to be present in the moment.  This blog as I began it is for friends and family - it's simply a place where I jot down my thoughts, experiences and stories to share with all who are interested.  I like this blog because it's has nothing to do with my business or goals it's  just a page that is simply about me, by me, and for me in the end.  

I've been told by many that I ought to write some of my "NYC experience" stories into a book perhaps I may someday but where to begin? Some stories are easy like the story about the musician or the horrible tale of the evil blood sucking creatures of the night (also known as 'bad blood and bed bugs').  Other stories take a little more work to craft into interesting snippets of life.  

I've been thinking about where to begin and what to discuss in this blog here with you... I could discuss health, the restaurant biz, life with a cute puppy or perhaps I could even write a Carrie Bradshaw-esque blog on the life and times of a single girl in the city.  I have stories to tell that involve being dumped at 4am via text message.  Or how it took over three days and three very long conversations to end things with someone I'd known for less than a month.  I could talk about bachelorette parties, bull riding, bartenders, fabulous ladies, and skeezy men. But unlike Carrie whose fictional existence revolves around those interactions between men, friends, and the city - I don't find that any of those moments are central to me or my life in the city.  I am not a carrie... 

I feel those crazy evenings out are like fancy throw pillows - they add some color, texture, and shape to life but at the end of the day you still throw them on the floor in order to go to sleep. The pictures end up on facebook in an odd sort of mutilated patchwork quilt of craziness that blankets the heart of all other accomplishments.  When you work so hard to create a professional life how do you balance the personal in between - what stories do you tell in which you can be salacious and intriguing yet respectable and strong.  It's an interestingly fine line women walk in New York City.  We struggle to be independent, strong, and capable during the day and then at night we are expected to be slinky, coy, and free spirited.  Where does this duality leave us? and How does technology play a role in our ability or inabilty to keep these two worlds separate? Perhaps I am a Carrie... since in pondering this issue I find this is a subject I could discuss in depth were it not already almost 2am.  However, for now, it is now my intent to "go to the mattresses" (I just had to pick the bedding allusion back up) and fight to find the best foundation or springs for my bed of life and to tell those stories as best I can and then I will add in the throw pillows and a quilt or two just for decoration.

I hope my ramblings are at least somewhat coherent and if not oh well I will just have to fix that later with a much better more intriguing story...
Goodnight. 

Sunday, July 19, 2009

Food and Lifestyle choices

Hi Friends and Family!

I know that it's been ages since I last wrote a blog but here I am now and what stories do I have to tell!  It has been an incredible whirlwind of a year so far.  In January I began taking classes through the Institute for Integrative Nutrition.  It has been an absolutely incredible experience. In my time at IIN I have gained more than I ever thought possible - I started my own business, I am working with clients (counseling others to live healthfully and happily is the most thrilling thing I've experienced in a very long time), and learned a lot about myself in the process as well.  In the aftermath of my drama from 2008 I was falling into unhealthy patterns- feeling lost, angry, hurt- the normal feelings of heartbreak I suppose. The course at IIN has not only helped me to find a career path and direction I enjoy it also pushed me to work on my own life and really find what was important to me - in doing so I was able to break from the anguish I was trapped in and find joy in the amazing life I have around me.  

I've spent a lot of time over the last 7 months experimenting with my diet, exercise, and overall lifestyle choices to find what makes me feel the best and most productive.  I have made a lot of changes - I am able now to speak my mind about my opinions and living a healthy lifestyle is something I am more passionate about now than ever.  One big change that has come from all of this is that I have decided that for me eating meat simply is not for me.  I made this choice after several months of experimenting with my diet and have come to the conclusion that it's not worth it for me to have meat in my diet. I first began experimenting by taking meat out of my diet for a week or two at a time - when I did so I found that I had more energy - I felt lighter, happier, and just overall better. After a two week experiment I decided to integrate meat back into my diet amazingly enough all of the things I had felt relieved of came back - I was moodier, felt heavier, and just didn't feel as strong.  So I took it back out - and voila! after a day or two I felt better again.  Lighter, happier, and clearer than before.  So this time I took it out for two months and I consistently felt better - the change in my moods was the best thing I ever could have felt, I also found that my skin was better, and overall it was easier to make healthy choices while living this lifestyle.  BUT being the scientist that I am I decided to slowly integrate meat back in again just for a little bit - that angry, moody, cloud came over me yet again and I just didn't feel very good - more lethargic and definitely less driven.  So out went the meat.  

It is with all of that that I have come to the decision that it simply isn't worth it to me to have meat in my life.  I like the lifestyle choice I have made and I don't feel the need to go back.  Now this is my experience and my experience only - there are some people whose bodies simply don't function well without animal protein but I am not one of them.  I have so much fun finding healthy alternative proteins and I thoroughly enjoy this lifestyle.  I also feel that in this day and age the way animals are treated is so unbelievably bad I can't in good conscious support the system that promotes that kind of cruelty (see Food, Inc. if you want to see what I am talking about). So there you have it - I am finally announcing to the whole family my choice to be a vegetarian. I am happy with my choice but in this I wanted to make clear that I made the choice from an incredibly individual standpoint and for my own health.  

Now with all of that said I am off for a run in Central Park before I have to go to work.  I will write more very soon.  I am graduating from IIN next weekend and am so excited!!!  For any of you who have not had a chance to check out my website or read my newsletter go to www.sharonstevenshealth.com send me a message and I'll make sure to put you on my newsletter mailing list.  :)  

Love to all.  

Tuesday, March 10, 2009

My new business!!!!

Hello All!!!

I know I haven't had any time to write or even call much lately! Things have been going great for me but they are so busy! I will write more soon when it's not 2:30 in the morning and I have to get to bed but for now check this out! My health counseling business is up and running! I have taken the first test towards my certification and I am now allowed to start seeing clients! If you or anyone you know is looking to make a change in their diet and lifestyle and they need or want a little extra guidance. Come my way. I use a holistic approach to help men and women struggling with weight loss, body image, low energy, and a variety of other health concerns who want to stop floating along and find the best way to live happy and healthy. My goal is to make healthy living attainable and easy - because it is. There is so much information out there it's hard for anyone to sift through it all and see what's right - I'm here to point those who want to make a change in the right direction. check me out...

www.sharonstevenshealth.com

and you can email me at
sharonstevenshealth@gmail.com

Friday, January 9, 2009

Sharon Meditates on the Future of the New Year

Well, It's one week into 2009, it's around 5am in the morning and I have yet to fall asleep (thats what I get for sleeping in til 12 I guess) So I figured what better way to spend my time than writing in my blog? So here I am. I am starting this year hopeful and energetic. I am washing away 2008 and ready to face the new year and all it's adventures and challenges. I have many exciting things coming up and many new goals for the coming year. First and foremost is my enrollment in the Institute for Integrative Nutrition. I am very excited about the program - we start classes on January 17th and I cannot wait to start down the path to becoming a certified health counselor. Anyone I haven't told about the program already can go here for more info www.integrativenutrition.com I first heard about the school over a year and a half ago and spent a long time thinking about whether or not it was something I wanted to do and whether or not it was really something I could do. After much of my drama last summer I decided in August that is was time to enroll. I haven't talked about it a lot yet since classes haven't started but I am so thrilled that soon I will be enabled to help guide others to make the diet, nutrition, and lifestyle choices they need to live at their happiest healthiest level. And in learning how to help others make these choices I will be doing the same for myself. I plan to become the healthiest version of myself possible in 2009. I know that in doing so I will strengthen my confidence to pursue everything that I want in life. It's interesting to me that it's taken around two and half years to finally get my bearing in New York well enough that I finally feel confident in my choices here. Two in a half years ago, I didn't know if I could simply survive living in the big city let alone following my dreams. I can now look at myself and where I am as an independent woman in the city and see that yes I can live here and now it's time to follow those dreams. It's going to be an interesting year I can't say that it's going to be a good or even great year or that it will be a bad year... the only thing I know is that it will be an adventure and I am looking forward to creating my path.

Wednesday, October 8, 2008

quick update

It's funny how writing one short story can make you feel so accomplished and inferior. I say this because I really liked writing my "only in NY" story and I am so grateful for the encouraging and complimentary comments I received in response. Of course I feel now that I started my blog off at such a level and now I have to go above and beyond for each entry - sadly that will not be the case. For example, this post is just a normal straight forward update on my life. But I do have a feeling more stories are to come. :) I actually really enjoy writing in a way I didn't expect - it definitely is cathartic. My new life in New York is definitely picking up and moving forward with incredible force. I've spent the last week meeting and hanging out with friends, getting organized, and just enjoying NYC. I went to an audition yesterday for the National Tour of "Fiddler On The Roof." It was an absolute Madhouse! It was a non required open call which means they were seeing non-equity and equity people all the same. There were over 600 people there! For the sake of time they decided to type (where they stand you in a line,look at you head to toe, and then say yes or no as to whether or not they want you to stay and sing). I was very glad they decided to type because it meant they wouldn't waste my time and I wouldn't be wasting theirs. Unfortunately, I was typed out - the first time in my life I didn't look Jewish enough I guess. But the best thing about typing is that you can't feel bad because it has nothing to do with your talent it's just your look. The good thing is simply that I went - I am getting myself back out there. I really am looking forward to a new chapter in my life here in NY - it's exciting. :)

Thursday, October 2, 2008

Only in NY

So I had a true only in NY moment tonight...He is the short story I wrote to transcribe the details. Now the actual even is not quite as romanticized and involved a little more caution and fear on the young girls part (holding tight to her purse, taking in her surroundings to ensure she was never truely alone, etc.) but that fear and caution makes the story a little too clunky so here you go....

It's early autumn in New York City. The air outside is energetic, cool, and crisp but the air down in the subway is still humid and muggy - the underground world hasn't learned that summer is over yet. A young woman descends the steep escalator down into the deep veins of the pulsing city. She walks to a pillar in the center of subway platform and leans against the cool cement. She feels grounded here. She comes to this spot every week and waits for her train home. It's routine. Though never truly alone she feels comfortable enough to delve deep into her own thoughts of sadness and betrayal. As she leans against the heavy cement a sad familiar songs begins to play. " Well, I've been afraid of changin'/Cause I've built my life around you/But time makes bolder/Children get older/And I'm getting older too" She listens to the song and reflects upon her melancholy thoughts. She chuckles to herself a little when she realizes how truly "out of a movie" this all seems. Sad girl, sad song, trains and people passing by oblivious to the young woman's broken dreams.

She looks up to see the source of the music. A middle aged musician is squatting against a trash can about five feet away. His silver gray hair tied back, his clothes unremarkable except for his red converse sneakers, his black cloth guitar case sits in front of him open for donations. Several people stop by and drop a dollar into his case. He stares ahead of him singing his song seemingly lost in the melody. One buoyant southern woman runs up and drops a dollar in his case softly exclaiming to him that its her favorite song. The musician nods and smiles a little. The southern woman goes back to her husband who looks a little ashamed that his wife gave a street musician money but she is so excited over the song her happiness quells his pride. A few young tourists come down from the ever moving escalator and seemed lost - The musician briefly steps out of his musical reverie and walks over to the girls and gives them directions on how to get to the train they so nervously seek. He then returns to the same sad song in his slightly raspy folk inspired voice and ends with a nice acoustic riff.

The young woman still against the pillar watched him for a minute or two trying to decide if she should drop a dollar in his open case - he was a very good player and the song had moved her in a way she had not expected. But as the song had ended she no longer felt comfortable boldly walking to the musician and dropping a tip. A train arrives across the platform and all but one or two people quickly hop on and disappear into the dark bowels of the city. The girl still waits for her train. Slightly uncomfortable now by the lack of people surrounding her - she eyes the musician carefully. As his song finishes the musician walks to the girl and stands next to her perhaps a bit closer than she would like. He then says in a typical New York accent, "For you, ten dollars." Puzzled, she looks at him. "Ten Dollars? Why?" He shrugs his shoulders and laughs a little - she can tell that he must have noticed her reaction to his song. She feels vulnerable that he had seen through to the depth of her sadness. The musician then says, "Well, you know it could be worse." She responds "Could be worse?" How did he know how she was feeling? The musician then grabs her hand - fear and exhilaration jolt through her body. In a joking voice he whispers, "Yeah, you could be ugly." She laughs. Amused and Startled. She nervously steps to side and pulls her hand away not forcefully enough to be outwardly mean or rude but enough to show the advance is definitely unwelcome. At her nervous smile and chuckle the guitar play grins and grabs her chin, "Ah, this face!" he exclaims. "You are so beautiful." He lets go and starts to walk away. As he saunters to his place by the trash can (a much safer distance or so the girl feels) he says to her, "A face that beautiful. you deserve someone good." He takes a few steps. "I would be so good to you." The woman laughs a little at the amazing forwardness and yet sincerity of his remark. Feeling out of her own body this confident young woman replies, "That would be a nice change." The musician stops at his dollar bill filled guitar case and settles back into his position his expression amused at the young girls response. From his spot five feet away he calls out, "hey, what's your name?" a little hesitant the girl responds, "My name? Sharon. What's Yours?" He replies with a grin, "James." "Well, It's been nice to meet you James" The girl says politely. He goes back into a musical reverie playing an unfamiliar tune. The air between them is clear, uncomplicated, neither nervous or scared. The girl breathes out a little as she sees her train approaches. She knows she just had a bizarre one of a kind New York moment. As she steps onto the train James call out, "It was very nice to meet you Sharon. I hope to see you sometime again." She pokes her head back out the train doors, looks at the somewhat withered musician and says with a sheepish grin, "perhaps."

As the train doors close she takes a seat, catches one last glance at the musician and smiles a little. The back of her neck tingles and her stomach clenches and unclenches a little. She doesn't know if it's fear, adrenaline, or maybe that weird thing called happiness that pulses through her right now. All she knows is she just had a moment, a moment she wouldn't forget. A moment in which from the depths of her current depression and anxiety one stranger was able to make her feel special and important. She knew at that moment things would get better. It was time for her to embrace the change that was around her and let go of her fear.

New Life New Blog

So as we all know Live Log City seems to have vanished. It's interesting timing for me - I began the blog "What to do when your parents give you How to Succeed Without Your Parents Money" (the title of my last blog) As a way to journal the story of my life as I embarked upon my new journey - moving to NYC. I wanted a way to share my day to day life as a new New Yorker. It began that way and it also provided as an easy way to tell my friends and family the saga of me and Tony and the difficulties of a long distance relationship. Well, just as live log city seems to have dissolved so has my relationship with Tony. I will not spend any time in this blog (other than this sentence) talking about the events that transpired last week or any of the reasons we fell apart. I am now looking forward and doing everything within my power to move on and create the best possible version of myself. I've always known what a strong woman I could become and now is my opportunity to show the world what I can do and what I will be. So here we are... New Life, New Blog.

In this blog I will share short stories and journals about my life here in the city. I will talk about my dreams and ambitions, my failures and success. I will not hold back and some of it may be fairly personal but I never have and I never will have anything I feel I need to hide from my friends and family. I hope you enjoy my new blog and the new even more confident me.

love.